The scariest thing about life
I woke up this morning thinking I was going to write something about blocked ears.
No seriously, my left ear has been blocked for a week. Even though I assume it’s having a great time, because it probably still thinks it’s at the beach, I’m feeling seasick. And also 90, since I have to turn my head to be able to hear anything clearly. ‘Pardon’ has taken over ‘flippin” as my buzz word of the week. Nothing can make you appreciate the gift of being able to hear like not being able to.
However, I can’t do it. I can’t dedicate an entire blog post to my semi-permanent state. It wouldn’t feel right.
Just when I thought things were going ok, I have yet again been forced out of my comfort zone. A deep understanding about how fleeting life can be has been presented to me in the most unkind way imaginable. And, because Monday Hustle is all about being real, I literally can’t write authentically about anything else today.
This needs to be made clear.
See, with life, we always think that we have time. We believe things can wait. Our passions can wait. Coffee catch ups can wait. Conversations can wait. Our dreams can wait.
However.. One day.. There will come a time where those opportunities won’t be there in the morning. Because we won’t be there in the morning. The people we love won’t be there in the morning.
There it is. Life. Reality.
The only thing we know for sure is that life will end. And that is really flippin’ scary.
We don’t have any control over how long we have. We don’t have any control over how long the ones we love have. In fact, we don’t have control over very much at all.
But what we can control? How we choose to live, how we choose to treat ourselves, how we choose to treat others, while we are still living.
As I always say.. If you have a dream.. If you have a goal.. If you have a passion that you want to explore.. Start right now. Make today day one. Take action. Give yourself the grace and the space to embrace the life you envisage, whatever that may be, however it may change your current situation, whatever expectation others may have of you.. Because this is your life. And we really do only get one. There is no ‘right time’ to start learning, exploring, and embodying the change you want to see. There is only right now.
Accept yourself while you can. Learn to love who you are. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Nurture strength of spirit. Get to know yourself. Take the time to actually understand who you are, what you stand for, what you are truly passionate about, however weird you may think it is.. Honour this one chance we have to be ourselves.
In the same way, stop treating yourself like shit. Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop talking your body, your face, your abilities down. You are unique. There is only one of you. You are brilliant simply because you are.
Start treating others the way you want to be treated. Forgive past ailments. Make a conscious effort to set free anything that you feel may have held you back in the past. Let go of the shit that at the end of the day, really doesn’t matter. Get in touch with the people you love. Make time, make room, make effort for them. Prioritize those that actually mean something to you. Be open to what someone else may be able to teach you. Be grateful for the amazing souls you cross paths with on your journey.
Life can be brilliant, abundant and fun.. Life can also be cruel and short and unfair. The challenge then is to carry on. The challenge then is to seize the day. The challenge then is to explore what it means to truly live while we still can.
As much as I wish I didn’t get this reminder today, things don’t always work the way you want them to.
But I now understand this.
Every day we are alive is an opportunity. Every day we are alive is valuable. Every day we are alive truly is a blessing in more ways, to more people, than we’ll ever know.
Rest in peace, my good friend. The world will be a little less lush without you in it.